I’m not sure.
I think it’s more accurate to say that hate is a reaction to what I’m sending out. It’s an opportunity to pause, consider and learn.
When I’m focused on helping people, my ratio of positive to negative interactions is 500:1.
I find being told to change extremely painful. It’s like I let the World down, which is a major trigger for me.
The best antidote that I’ve found for dealing with my own negative feelings is to pause, not react, and ask myself, I’ll be happy when…
- all dopers are caught
- all frauds are punished
- you change, rather than me
- you. stop. that. right. now.
- you close your sport, business, site, magazine because it bothers me
- everyone, like me, has equal justice, from bigots like you
- you break those friendships off
Are you sure that you’ll be happy if they change?
I won’t be happy when you change. I’ll pat myself on the back and move on to the next target. It is a path that’s guaranteed to make ME miserable and strengthen whomever is happens to be “wrong.”
My reality is that I will either be happy now, or not at all.
I share this because the 500:1 ratio is a compelling case that we can have a much greater impact by helping, rather than correcting, each other.
The positive interactions are what make us happy.
Break the chain.