Around the house, I’m fond of saying, “Good people can make bad decisions.” I say this because I’m aware of my past misdeeds and my continued capacity for misjudgment.
However, out in the real world, telling someone that you believe they made a bad decision can have unpredictable outcomes => especially with people who have not come to terms with their own role in a situation.
If you feel cornered, and have been asked for your opinion, then here is a useful fallback…
I will never know the facts. What I do know is I believe in forgiveness and want the best for you and your family.
You’ll preserve the relationship and can move on.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to associate, do business or live with someone.
Forgiveness means you free yourself from the burden of carrying around the past.
By the way, I’m reading a book called Impossible Conversations.
My #1 “unhelpful” conversation habit is parallel talk – both out loud and in my mind. I have a bunch of other habits that hold me back but I can’t tackle too much at once!
The book is worth your time.