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At its core, what’s marriage?
Marriage is an agreement to never intentionally harm each other.
I have a strange, and recurring, expectation => a desire to see my spouse happy doing things that I find difficult.
It is unreasonable to expect my spouse to be happy doing things I find difficult.
Early in our relationship, I made a wise decision.
I gave up trying to teach my wife anything about nutrition.
I should have extended this attitude across a wider range of topics.
I didn’t marry for the opportunity to teach competency to my spouse.
I married for the opportunity to serve.
Our children have two habits that cause problems in our house: (1) “accidentally” physically hurting each other; and (2) the use of biting “humor” to tweak each other.
Make a habit of avoiding unnecessary conflict.
Start by noticing, there is a lot of it, particularly internally.
Winners want the ball.
To be fit for leadership, I need to figure out how to deal with this.
“This” being whatever happens to be upsetting me at the minute.
I don’t need to “figure out” everything.
What I need to figure out is my reaction to the normal ups and downs of life!
I am absolutely certain, my future self will say I could have chilled out more.
Make a habit of yielding as much as possible.