Here’s three things to try.
1/ Acknowledge I have no idea about what it is like to be you.
When I have this mindset, I am much more likely to help a situation. All day long, I remind myself… I know nothing about what it’s like to be you.
2/ Try to be less of an asshole.
I’m a repeat offender – most certainly inside my head.
It can be funny, it can provide a personal release but it seldom makes things better.
Just try to be less => compounding works down as well as up.
I’ve been working towards less for 20+ years.
3/ Make friends outside my tribe.
One conversation at a time.
Some of us have trouble speaking to the out-group. Try this book and use the techniques to make friends with your fear.
As for your friends (old and new) => It’s OK to disagree, I’m not going to put a relationship on the line because of my opinion.
We are likely to have plenty of time, and material, for this type of work.
A final note, I’ve studied enough history to doubt we are more divided (than ever).
The message of division primarily comes somebody trying to sell me something, capture my attention or raise money.
Conflict is an enduring aspect of human societies.
Remember… there has always been, and will always be, a need for people to bridge divides in order to get stuff done.
Be the change.