I expected a lot more physical decline!
The decision to phase out athletic competition was one of my best.
So much chronic fatigue is gone and replaced with healthier pursuits (strength training, human relationships, being-a-better-man projects).
If I could give you one thing to achieve for your 40s then it would be to write down, how you get in your own way.
That’s one of the best things about getting older. The repeated mistakes make it obvious what’s going on.
Three post-it notes are enough for me:
- Don’t act on anger.
- Are you sure?
- What do you want to have happen? What do you think will happen?
All three are stuck to my computer monitor.
That’s my “what not to do” list.
What about my “to do more often” list?
My 40s happened to coincide with the Great Recession, preschoolers, the death of my last two grandparents, a massive corporate insolvency and periodic unemployment.
Some years were better than others.
It took a decade to arrive back where I started:
- A feeling of control over my schedule
- Daily exercise: ideally, in nature
- Teaching: kids, instead of clients
- Seeking Mastery: skiing, instead of triathlon
- Learning: how to think, act and be better
The core structure of my days, my values and what I enjoy to do… all are unchanged from my 20s.
What remains undone?