A segment of our local community is dealing with the fallout from treating child abuse as an internal issue – rather than seeking assistance from local law enforcement.
I have been bumping into this story for over thirty-five years.
There is never just one incident.
Years ago, I attended a child abuse prevention workshop.
Kids don’t lie – in over 20 years, my teacher had instructed 100,000 kids. Out of the 400 reports received, none were false.
20 years, 100,000 child interactions, 400 reports, zero false positives.
The perpetrator will have primed your child that you will be angry and not believe them. The most likely perpetrator is a male you know.
Have a no secret policy in your home – predators use secrets against our kids – let the kids know that kisses and touches should never have to be kept secret.
It is awkward to live an open life. Awkward is better than creating a culture of secrecy exploited by evil people.
Create a support network – have your kids name five people they know and trust (ideally women) – discuss places in their neighborhood where they feel safe.
When I’m walking around town, I’ll ask my kids… “Show me a safe person.” “Why is that person safe?”
Teach your kids that adult authority should never go unqualified => even your own!
Teach your kids… If you feel uncomfortable then:
- Get Help
As a parent, the most important thing you can say is “I Believe You.” I say this a lot, I will “believe” somewhat ridiculous things.
People that commit evil deeds are hoping you will look away.