Nothing else matters until you’ve mastered these points.

Why?

Done well, these points bring relief and create space for the rest of your life.

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Downstream effects

Where you’ll be sleeping => I spent a lot of time, alone, in the basement.

Sleep schedules => Baby, Mom, You => in order of priority.

Use of outside help => support the marriage by supporting your wife’s sleep and up-skilling everyone’s ability to swaddle and deal with the reality of the baby (they cry).

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Pay attention to what works, and doesn’t.

Keep what works and build a schedule.