- Learn to swaddle
- Focus on your wife’s sleep
- Babies cry
Nothing else matters until you’ve mastered these points.
Done well, these points bring relief and create space for the rest of your life.
Where you’ll be sleeping => I spent a lot of time, alone, in the basement.
Sleep schedules => Baby, Mom, You => in order of priority.
Use of outside help => support the marriage by supporting your wife’s sleep and up-skilling everyone’s ability to swaddle and deal with the reality of the baby (they cry).
Pay attention to what works, and doesn’t.
Keep what works and build a schedule.