While certain personality types tolerate constant correction, it’s corrosive to a relationship with an Alpha Child.
Here’s what works…
One Thing – What one thing, if it happened, would take performance to a new level? Pick your battles (or you will be constantly battling).
Default Position – When managing the highly competent, what’s your default position? Is it frequent, small doses of approval backed by admiration? It should be.
Skill Acquisition – Your Alpha Pups are keen to please by learning skills and completing tasks. ABC => Always Build Competence.
Mistakes – Make mistakes visible, teach a different approach with better outcomes then get back to your One Thing. Learning to forgive your own mistakes will help you forgive others.
If in doubt keep my mouth shut and work on my own one thing.
If you were taught constant-correction management (particularly in childhood) then it’s going to be tough to change.
Keep It Simple!
What’s my One Thing, here?
With my oldest…
- One Thing – reading
- Default Position – let things happen
- Skill Acquisition – swimming, camping, sailing, enjoyment of nature, aerobic capacity, strength, reading, math, writing, persuation
- Mistakes – teach via mantras AFTER the energy of conflict has left
The main thing people need is love.
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