I blew up my first marriage in a year.
If you asked me about it then, not only would I have blamed my ex-spouse, I would have blamed the entire concept of marriage.
Roll forward a couple decades (!) and here’s a lesson that I’m seeking to pass along to my kids.
Sibling bickering is exhausting, painful and universal.
Rather than focusing on “fixing” my kids – who seem healthy, loving and normal – I use conflict as an opportunity to teach.
I wait for the energy to go out of the situation.
Hey, I want to teach you a Jedi mind trick.
When you are upset…
Watch your mind.
It is going to fix on something outside…
Your mind is going to trick you into thinking that the problem is out there.
Because you can’t do anything “out there.”
What you can do is pause and ask, “What do I want?”
And you’re going to find something to helpful to do.
Simple, not easy.
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