There were a lot of good habits in my first firm. One was holding a meeting to review all our dud deals. We tried to get value from our mistakes. Often, it would take many, many repetitions of the same mistake for the lesson to sink in.
So, if I could give you one thing to achieve by the time you are 50… it would be to write down how you get in your own way.
- a willingness to rely on competence, rather than kindness
- an enjoyment of getting too tired to care
- a tendency to not react, or completely over react
Do you know your list?
Invert your errors and consider… what makes your life better?
- Get up really, really early
- Daily Exercise – low standard deviation, no zeros, frequency not load
- Roll a simple, visible, written schedule
Better, not easy!
The best decision I made in the last ten years was to stop competing when my oldest turned two.
Take (some of) the energy you spend on competing and focus on being a better person at home.
Why only some?
- Because physical energy declines over time
- Because older, under-scheduled people think better
- Because being “busy” is a trigger for ALL the ways I get in my own way!
Also because I recommend you don’t give too much to your baby.
I have a hunch that many of the downstream issues in families start with a young parent not defining personal boundaries and getting completely tapped out.
=> infidelity, addiction, anger, abandonment… all forms of release
The best thing you can do for your entire family system is set clear boundaries and remember that it is OK to say no.
Childcare benefits the marriage.
Before I had real babies in my house, my “baby” was school, work or athletics.
Giving one’s self completely is a great way to live when you are young and single. Once you’re married with kids, there are a lot of unintended consequences of being single-minded.
Leaders keep their houses in order.
You must be logged in to post a comment.