I can get a lot done, while achieving nothing meaningful, by solving problems all day.
Am I managing towards desired outcomes, or focusing on my problems?
My favorite thing is doing stuff in nature and I want to have a successful marriage.
So, I try to be open to the experience of sharing things in nature, with my wife.
- 1,000 days ago, my wife couldn’t ski
- 500 days ago, she was better but we were not sharing the vibe (more like enduring it)
- So, we both did what it takes so that we could share skiing together, and enjoy it
1,000 days of focus was enough for the two of us to capture the bulk of the benefit (but it did take 1,000 days!).
The big picture points:
#1 – We managed to strengthen our marriage by doing something neither of us was good at three years ago.
#2 – If your younger self was achievement-oriented then working towards mastery in middle age is extremely satisfying.
This is a game we can play, together, for the rest of our lives.
1,000 days ago, this guy was Level Zero at the ski school. We kept signing him up for lessons and he didn’t get one tick on his skill list!
He showed NO signs of aptitude, for a year, but he enjoyed the process.
Now he’s skiing the entire mountain and loving it. His price was a whole lot less than mine. It took him ~100 days on snow and a million vertical feet.
If you don’t the work then you’ll never know if you could have achieved the result.
Be wary of letting “problems” get in the way of gradually moving towards desired outcomes.