Above, my 2000 landing page
All the world-class players I know, take their game very seriously!
This attitude runs from life-and-death situations (combat, medicine) through to less lethal environments… say, lane etiquette at the track / pool.
OUR game is IMPORTANT
It could very well be.
Let’s explore for a moment.
First Tip : What do my ACTIONS say about the game I am actually playing?
How about ten years living like these guys?
If you survive then you will be a phenomenal athlete.
That’s how you play the “endurance athlete game”
NVDP – similar game, similar approach
All Domains => BIG survivor bias in the winners
Special people, challenging to integrate into a family system.
The high-performance game is a young person’s game.
Why?
Meaningful relationships outside your domain are impossible (think NFL Quarterbacks, Grand Tour Winners).
Second Tip: Connection is the central ‘problem’ of aging
The reason high-performers keep coming back…
- They can’t find the answer in their domain…
- And we’re all telling them how great they are…
- So they keep plugging on…
- Until their lives fall apart
I had the rug pulled out on my life, too.
It was a good thing.
I started asking myself better questions.
We are free, at any time, to change direction.
Is my game solving the central problem facing my future self?
Have I even thought about this question?
Third Tip: Knowing “What We Don’t Want” Is Easier
When you hear the voice, “this isn’t where I need to be.”
Listen
Too often I fall prey to lifestyle inflation (here & here) and showing off.
Not only is that game impossible to win, it will take me somewhere I didn’t, and don’t, want to go.
As a young person, the first values we notice are the “not for me” choices of our peers.
So, if you start journalling, lower the stakes.
The game of life is ever changing.
What’s right for you today, will change over time.
Maybe, you’ll find a life partner and agree to face change together.
I have complete confidence you’ll figure it out
I say to my kids.
We’d figure it out, together.
Same reassuring mantra, different target => my wife
Our lives, our paths, our friendships, and our marriages…
only need to make sense to us
The voice we hear in our diaries, the themes that reoccur in our writings – that’s who we need to be faithful to.
If we don’t choose with intention then we get the default set of values of our parents, our peers, or our surroundings.
Own your game.
What do my actions say about the game I am really playing?
Where is this likely to take me?
Feel The Byrn 
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