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Dissatisfied? 5 Simple Steps To Make Your Life Better, While Overcoming Fear Of Failure

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At the start of 2022, a vision came to me:

  • Sitting in the Arapahoe Basin parking lot
  • Running my business from a camper van
  • Alternating ski runs with bursts of work
  • Combining sunshine, exercising outdoors and helping people

That’s was my vision.

What is your vision?

That’s for you to decide.

I’m going to show you how to get there.

I’m ahead of schedule and have done it several times before.

#1 – Write it down

If you’re feeling courageous, maybe tell someone.

Absolutely, tell yourself, in writing.

Own it.

Over time, perhaps you realize your fears are an illusion and you share your vision with the world.

What’s it going to take?

So much work, it’s overwhelming.

  • Most never start
  • The pandemic was a great excuse not to start.
  • After that, I was trying to be a good husband, a good father.

Inside my light was going out.

It was time for a change.

#2 – What are the conditions required for success?

Asking the right question, the answer arrived.

Positive change is built from new connections and action.

How many new connections do I need?

  • 10,000 came to me
  • I’m 53 and I want to be chilling in the parking lot by my 60th birthday
  • That’s four new connections a day

Seemed do-able. Certainly worth trying.

Break the goal down into simple, manageable pieces then do them, daily.

My best case scenario requires 4 new connections a day. I can do this.

What do I know about action?

#3 – Start at a pace you can sustain for 1000 days

  • Most dreams die before birth
  • The next cause of dream-death is failing to give the protocol enough time to work
  • We are on the right path, but we quit before we breakthrough

What actions can I commit to making happen for 1000 days?

  • One Tweet A Day
  • Two Articles A Week

Seems small. Simple is a better way to think of it.

Simple, daily actions.

#4 – Say Yes To Randomness

Fitness takes a long time to accrue. Just the way it is.

Fortunately, the real world is NOT like that.

  • One Friend
  • One Investment
  • One Meeting
  • One Podcast
  • One Tweet
  • One Article

Everybody gets their shot.

Thing is, we never know which connection will come through.

In 2022, Rich Roll gave me my shot. Our podcast goes SuperNova and brings five years of connection in a fortnight.

Keep swinging.

#5 – Double Down On What’s Working

Our connections let us know what resonates.

  • Pay attention.
  • Keep working.

In January, I am migrating to Substack and splitting my blog.

WordPress won’t let me migrate you – you’ll need to sign up.

Subscription is free – there’s an option to financially contribute if you wish.

  1. First up will be my eBook, Endurance Essentials.
  2. After that, I’ll be tackling True Wealth.

Come along for the ride. It’s going to be great.

Three Tips for Playing Your Best Game

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Above, my 2000 landing page

All the world-class players I know, take their game very seriously!

This attitude runs from life-and-death situations (combat, medicine) through to less lethal environments… say, lane etiquette at the track / pool.

OUR game is IMPORTANT

It could very well be.

Let’s explore for a moment.

First Tip : What do my ACTIONS say about the game I am actually playing?

How about ten years living like these guys?

If you survive then you will be a phenomenal athlete.

That’s how you play the “endurance athlete game”

NVDP – similar game, similar approach

All Domains => BIG survivor bias in the winners

Special people, challenging to integrate into a family system.

The high-performance game is a young person’s game.

Why?

Meaningful relationships outside your domain are impossible (think NFL Quarterbacks, Grand Tour Winners).

Second Tip: Connection is the central ‘problem’ of aging

The reason high-performers keep coming back…

  • They can’t find the answer in their domain…
  • And we’re all telling them how great they are…
  • So they keep plugging on…
  • Until their lives fall apart

I had the rug pulled out on my life, too.

It was a good thing.

I started asking myself better questions.

We are free, at any time, to change direction.

Is my game solving the central problem facing my future self?

Have I even thought about this question?

Third Tip: Knowing “What We Don’t Want” Is Easier

When you hear the voice, “this isn’t where I need to be.”

Listen

Our true needs are simple.

Too often I fall prey to lifestyle inflation (here & here) and showing off.

Not only is that game impossible to win, it will take me somewhere I didn’t, and don’t, want to go.

As a young person, the first values we notice are the “not for me” choices of our peers.

So, if you start journalling, lower the stakes.

The game of life is ever changing.

What’s right for you today, will change over time.

Maybe, you’ll find a life partner and agree to face change together.

I have complete confidence you’ll figure it out

I say to my kids.

We’d figure it out, together.

Same reassuring mantra, different target => my wife

Our lives, our paths, our friendships, and our marriages…

only need to make sense to us

The voice we hear in our diaries, the themes that reoccur in our writings – that’s who we need to be faithful to.

If we don’t choose with intention then we get the default set of values of our parents, our peers, or our surroundings.

Own your game.

What do my actions say about the game I am really playing?

Where is this likely to take me?