Let’s dig a little deeper into a topic I discussed with Rich.
The year is 2000, I’m divorcing and have the urge to leave everything (job, city, hemisphere).
This is a common feeling.
The idea that everything would be better if I could just start fresh.
The one piece of advice I listened to….
Before taking action, I started journalling.
My program was from The Artist’s Way and boils down to this…
Write three pages every morning for 12 weeks and pay attention to what you’re telling yourself
These days, there is a video course.
My journalling resulted in my first Top Ten List, below, from 2000.
There wasn’t much overlap between where I was and where I wanted to be.
The desire to leave, seemed legit.
So I left.
How did it go?
- Writing you
- In an organized office
- Feeling relaxed
- With an 8:29 IM best
- In a home base
- Having published 1,000+ articles
- Still have too much stuff
- With an absolutely wonderful wife
- Could do with being less serious
- Once again, looking for new challenges
It is NOT as simple as writing a list and sitting back.
We gotta make it happen.
To make improvement happen, we need to know where we want to go.
…and writing is one way to get out of our own way
…out of all the external wants of our environment
Working in finance, living in Hong Kong, caught in a life driven by acquisition/spending…
My thoughts were dominated by external wants.
I went to Far North Queensland and the South Island of New Zealand.
Cleared my head out and built the life I wanted to lead.
These days the process is much simpler.
Five Minutes AM & PM
I use a few short prompts I got from Dickie Bush
Same idea: get out of my own way and see what I’m telling myself.
What do I have to say?
2022 rhymes with 2000
- Less is OK
- Grateful for my adult setbacks and childhood difficulties
- Moderate the peaks
- Simple questions work
- Winning doesn’t feel different
- Less stuff makes me feel serene
- I’m preparing for a very slow race
- Get fit, not stuff
- My kids are leaving soon – enjoy them
- Tired means I’ve done enough
- Focus on the week, not the outcome
- It’s OK to leave it alone
- Don’t buy anything I have to manage
- Everything is trending up
Do you notice the difference between the two lists?
First off, the list feels more positive. I start every morning by writing down something I’m grateful for.
When I started, gratitude seemed hokey.
23 years ago, I felt the same way about love.
It’s a lot easier to fill a need if we’re open to the concept.
I want to repeat, it’s important…
Love. Respect. Admiration. Connection.
You don’t have to admit it to anyone other than yourself.
Be open to realizing what’s lacking in your life.
Next, my list makes it obvious that my life situation is not a problem.
Whatever I need to do… I can do right here.
This gets to The Question I talked about with Rich.
If this was it, are you OK with it?
You Gotta Make It Happen
My thread on the book, Time Management for Mortals – how to do
Five Questions to Ask Yourself & Becoming Lifestyle Sustainable
The biggest mistake I saw in Finance – a life of experiences, not stuff
The Choices That Define Your (Financial) Life
A similar article to today, from 2004.
LINK to web archive of above
A similar article to today, from 2011
Link to Top Ten List from my early 40s – from when I decided to phase out racing
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